GLORIA KAY VANDERHORST, PH.D.
As a psychologist, my career has covered the lifespan, starting with working with preschoolers, mainly boys, because female teachers are more distressed by boys than girls. Throughout almost 50 years of private practice, I have worked with preschoolers, elementary-aged children, teens, adults, and couples. My training in Emotion Focused Therapy and Internal Family Systems has been effective in helping each client heal from childhood injuries and learn to embrace their strengths.
My recent book, Read, Reflect, Respond: the 3 R’s of Growth and Change is designed to help adults examine their histories and grow into the present. Stimulating essays are paired with guided questions and an opportunity to draw, scribble, and write genuine reactions to the printed words. In this way, each person is guided to uncover parts of themselves and their histories, leading to the opportunity to change and grow.
My book in process How Not To f$%! Up Being A Father, is a guide for fathers on raising boys that maintain access to the full range of emotions and experience a sense of competence about being able to express feelings. For centuries, we have raised boys to suppress access to the more tender range of feelings. Then we expect them to exhibit compassion, form deep commitments, get married, develop an intimate, supportive emotional relationship with another, and eventually provide emotional guidance to their sons and daughters. This is a setup for failure. One cannot lead down a path that they have never been allowed to walk.

GLORIA KAY VANDERHORST, PH.D.
As a psychologist, my career has covered the lifespan, starting with working with preschoolers, mainly boys, because female teachers are more distressed by boys than girls. Throughout almost 50 years of private practice, I have worked with preschoolers, elementary-aged children, teens, adults, and couples. My training in Emotion Focused Therapy and Internal Family Systems has been effective in helping each client heal from childhood injuries and learn to embrace their strengths.
My recent book, Read, Reflect, Respond: the 3 R’s of Growth and Change is designed to help adults examine their histories and grow into the present. Stimulating essays are paired with guided questions and an opportunity to draw, scribble, and write genuine reactions to the printed words. In this way, each person is guided to uncover parts of themselves and their histories, leading to the opportunity to change and grow.
My book in process How Not To f$%! Up Being A Father, is a guide for fathers on raising boys that maintain access to the full range of emotions and experience a sense of competence about being able to express feelings. For centuries, we have raised boys to suppress access to the more tender range of feelings. Then we expect them to exhibit compassion, form deep commitments, get married, develop an intimate, supportive emotional relationship with another, and eventually provide emotional guidance to their sons and daughters. This is a setup for failure. One cannot lead down a path that they have never been allowed to walk.